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Dear people who don’t understand #MyAutism :-)

Updated: Mar 20, 2023


* I wish you knew that I don’t need to be ‘normal’ to be worthy or the best I can be.

* I wish you knew about the the times I’d scream at myself, for not being ‘good’, or for my ‘mistakes’. * I wish you knew how harmful it is when you say I’m not really #Autistic #IWishYouKnew that just because I appear capable or ‘not autistic’ does not mean I’m not being disabled by my autism ALL the time-I’m not any less autistic. * I wish you knew that it’s not a compliment to say I’m ‘not really that autistic’ or ‘everyone’s a bit autistic’ or “you’re not disabled-don’t be negative!” * I wish you knew that I’m not ‘more than my autism’ & how negative or hateful this language actually is -as it means that autism is a bad thing that you should aim to be ‘more than’-as autism is a negative that shouldn’t be a part of you.

* I wish you knew my autism is not a bad thing -It’s beautiful, honest, loyal, passionate, motivated, upstanding, selfless & justice seeking. My disability is not a negative perspective-I love my disability

* I wish you knew that calling myself disabled is a identity that embraces all of me - not shaming or undermining my struggles or teaching that I should not be 100% who I am, by empowering me to be & accept 100% of me-my Autism, quirks, hardships, gifts, disability & all.

But most of all... * I wish you knew how traumatising your lack of understanding is, when you gaslighted & tried to force me to do things that weren’t natural; When you taught me I was wrong to be myself - when you forced me to #WearAMask & hide myself/my #Autism.

* I wish you knew... that there’s no shame that you gaslighted or didn’t know how to help me

-you were brain washed like the rest of our worlds public to believe a eugenics & perfection obsessed society, to think Autism /disability is bad & should be moulded into normality to ‘help’ us. you were brainwashed to believe lies when you were searching to help - It’s not your fault. What matters now is you trying to challenge your misconceptions & your own ableism or gaslighting so we can empower autistic people to thrive! x <3 x



 






© Joely Williams 2020

Disclaimer

I refer to myself as a professional; however, this is due to my experiences as an Autistic individual
and my experiences as an Autism Activist, advocate and child-carer / youth worker (20 and 10 years respectively);
not due to my qualifications. I hope to educate and inspire others with my inside knowledge.

I cannot guarantee any personal success, inner autism acceptance or results relating to progress as a result of my insights,

opinions, advocacy, books, workshops, speeches or 121 sessions, and I will not be held responsible for any lack of success or progress.

My services, whether they be speaking, workshops, 121 or advocacy, should not be a replacement for professional diagnosis,

medication, or therapy. Safety measures and action plans have been tailored to the event or necessity, however, anyone

participating in my workshops or training sessions are doing so at their own risk, I do not and cannot take any responsibility

for any damage to person or products / equipment. Professionals, such as teachers, doctors and therapist should be consulted before

any life style changes are made. Everything within these training sessions, are designed and written from my experiences

and my own personal opinions, and what works for me, may not work for everyone else, and I cannot take responsibility for this.
 

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